In the ebook Sheer Control by Zara Lynne, a novel about a shared wife, a submissive bride begins to explore her sexuality and take lovers outside her marriage. The couple is traveling in the south of France and decide to spend time in a post card perfect city. The locale adds to the ambience of the novel. The wife is extremely sexy and alluring. The husband notices that French men are attracted to her. He encourages his wife to indulge desires she hasn’t so far expressed in taking other men to bed as a shared wife. She is a submissive hotwife versus a classic cuckoldress, nevertheless her husband deals with his feelings of jealousy as he watches his stunning wife having sex with other men.
In a previous article here on Cuckoldress.com, the sexual benefits of swinging vs. cuckolding were discussed by a swinging couple. However, in this book, there is a different dynamic. The dynamic is that of a shared wife where the husband has given permission to her to take other lovers, and who then enjoys the voyeuristic aspect of watching her with other men. In turn, she begins to enjoy the exhibitionism of being with other men sexually to please and arouse her husband. Her husband is not a traditional cuckold, since he isn’t dealing with the classic cuckold humiliation, instead he is infused with even more desire for her. Sexual competition increases the male libido. And while any husband who is setting his wife free of marital bonds will have to deal with jealousies, their marriage becomes more erotically charged. Remember that our largest sexual organ is our brain and that we can experience heightened arousal from visual stimulation such as exhibitionism. The Cuckoldress highly recommends this classy erotica, Sheer Control by Zara Lynne as well as other eBooks in the same series!
There was an intriguing article on Salon.com recently about a cuckold relationship in which the girlfriend felt that she had been used to satisfy her ex-boyfriend’s cuckold fetish. While the idea of being a Cuckoldress and living the lifestyle appealed to her and while she craved having the power, she ended up feeling trapped in the cuckold relationship instead. In her confessional story, this woman felt she had been manipulated by her ex-boyfriend. She divulged that she felt post-relationship remorse over how her ex-boyfriend had put his selfish sexual needs ahead of hers. He topped her from the bottom, as beta males, submissives or cuckolds are sometimes known to do in order to try to get what they want. I doubt she will ever get involved with a cuckold again. Was this a Cuckoldress fail? Not essentially. The sexual freedom to pursue lusty liaisons with well-hung men or Alpha males while being in a relationship with a cuckold simply did not work for her.
Many men do not start out in their sex life as a cuckold. Somewhere along the way, cuckolds develop these sexual tendencies and then their full-blown fetish follows. Just like any fetish introduced into a relationship, it may not be a “shared” fetish. A cucky cannot expect that his spouse, his girlfriend or any woman he meets will share this fetish with him. Becoming a Cuckoldress usually roots in dominance or desire for sexual freedom and power. While I often discuss with men who call for cuckold phone sex, how to get their wives or girlfriends interested in cuckolding them, there are obviously women who do not want to pursue this whatsoever. There are many reasons why women may not want to indulge in a cuckold relationship. Women may be sexually conservative, feel insecure about their looks, consider cuckolding to be cheating, feel no need to sleep with other men, feel that fantasizing or role playing is enough of a satisfying sexual expression, etc. But there are some women who can be persuaded to go further into cuckoldry. I don’t want to divulge my secrets here on how to turn your wife or girlfriend into a Cuckoldress. But one hint is that you have to let her think it’s her idea, not yours. Call me live on Niteflirt for more.
Dear Cuckoldress Sara,
I am not sure you have been following the drama around the potential new James Bond actor selections? The frontrunners are all UK actors: Idris Elba (Luther), Tom Hiddleston (The Night Manager) and Damian Lewis (Homeland). Official bets are now closed on favorite Tom Hiddleston to limit losses on behalf of the bookies, although bets are still being taken on Elba and Lewis. It’s just hard to believe that Daniel Craig would be turning down $100 million for 2 more Bond films? Who do you like for the new Bond?
Signed, I feel so cuckolded by the James Bond actors
Dear I feel so cuckolded,
Is that a rhetorical question? Of course I want Idris Elba to play James Bond, but he couldn’t be called 007. He’d have to be 009 or even 0010 or 0011 with his big black cock. LOL. Anyway, I agree it’s hard to believe that Daniel Craig would turn down that money. I read an article where it was stated he might be making a clever ploy for a bigger payday in his producer’s role for the next two Bond films, but realistically, how much more is going to be enough when you are talking about a standing $100 million offer? That’s like turning down a lottery win.
In reality, I don’t think Elba will be selected, as much as women all over the world are clamoring for him to be the next Bond. You can feel the cuckold burn already can’t you, if Elba were chosen as the sexiest spy alive? Nevertheless, if Craig truly turns down the offer, I have a feeling it will go Hiddleston who is hardly capable of cuckolding the male audience for Bond films.
All of the cuckolding stereotypes were personified in this recent news story and high profile trial promoted in the New York Post. The young, beautiful Swedish model as Cuckoldress. The married Asian financier and two minute man as cuckold. The black nightclub promoter as black bull. And in the end, the jury decided in favor of the Cuckoldress who won a multi million dollar settlement from the Asian cuckold.
Hanna Bouveng was hired by Benjamin Wey to work for his finance firm in Manhattan. One of Wey’s specialties was to buy out struggling corporations which had already been traded on the stock exchange and sell them to Asian companies looking for a fast track to get on the stock exchange without going through the usual channels. He offered Miss Bouveng a pittance of a salary to serve as his personal assistant, paid the rent on her apartment (over $3K a month plus utilities), but then expected sexual favors from her in return. In the few sexual encounters she had with Wey, he only lasted two minutes. And there were also the stereotypical rumors of Wey being underhung. The sugardaddy cuckold relationship ended when Wey found the black bull nude in her bed and told him to get dressed and leave. Was this because the black stud’s anatomy intimidated him? Wey then fired Bouveng. In any case, and in the legal case, Wey was sued by Bouveng for sexual harassment and won.
Many beautiful young women meet older, successful men for sugardaddy relationships on sugardaddy dating sites such as Seeking Arrangement. However, Miss Bouveng and Mr. Wey met at a party in the Hamptons. Mr. Wey probably would have been better suited at being a real sugardaddy to a younger woman looking for job experience or no job experience if all she wanted were the perks of being a sugarbaby. Most sugardaddy relationship perks typically include some type of sexual arrangement. Though it’s doubtful that Wey wanted to end up a cuckold blasted in media all over the world. Or maybe it was everything he ever wanted.
