In this classic painting dated 1664 by Dutch master and contemporary of Rembrandt, Jan Steen, titled “Celebrating the Birth”, we see cuckolding en tableau. This scene is visually rich with cuckolding imagery. Note the grinning man miming the cuckold sign of the horns above the baby’s head. Interestingly, art historians determined the cuckold hand sign had been painted over during the 19th century. This defacement was likely ordered by a collector or curator who took offense to the cuckolding horns and viewed them as profanity. The painting was restored to its original status only thirty years ago.
The man illustrating the cuckold humiliation is believed to be the artist himself who inserted his likeness into the painting to add contrasting emphasis to the cuckold, an older man holding the newborn baby. Art scholars believe the baby to be a son. A celebration would traditionally be held to herald a male heir. However, this is obviously not the older man’s child, but the child of the man portrayed by the painter. Symbolic elements in the painting reveal more metaphor. The brass bed warmer conspicuous in the forefront of the painting, signified that coals in the bed warmer were keeping the bed warmed. It denotes a lack of marital sex. The older husband had lost his libido. The wife is not so much a powerful cuckoldress as a resourceful woman with no other options but to engage in sex with another man, driven to do so by her husband’s impotency in order to produce heirs or offspring.
The older man is holding quite a large purse which indicates some level of wealth. This wealth has enabled him to attract the younger bride and to provide for her. But the painter has added a few other elements which mock the supposed father. Namely that he is wearing an apron and holding a set of keys. Key holding in that time was the duty of the woman of the house, sometimes referred to as the chatelaine in larger households. Wearing an apron is a humiliating emasculation. Other symbolism includes the eggshells on the floor, eggs which had been cracked and used as ingredients to prepare a celebratory feast. The term cracking eggs was an expression for having sex in 17th century Europe. Obviously, the girl grabbing the phallic looking limp sausage hanging above the fireplace illustrates strong sexual innuendo. Note her gaze is deliberately directed outward to those viewing the painting instead of interacting with the family, midwife or other cooks. She wants us to be aware of the sexual farce unfolding before us.
There are many different types of cuckolds. Being a cuckold isn’t one-size-fits-all typecasting. Here are the most common types of cuckolds with brief descriptions:
1. Traditional Voyeur – a voyeur cuckold enjoys seeing his wife or girlfriend experiencing sex with another man in a cuckolding scenario
2. Audio Voyeur – an audio voyeur enjoys hearing his wife or girlfriend experiencing sex with another man -or- he wants to hear the stories recapping the sexual scenarios to excite him. He does not want to see the sex scene as it may be too intense and humiliating for him to experience
3. Humiliation – a humiliation cuckold wishes to experience deep humiliation and sexual rejection. The act of cuckolding may be strong humiliation unto itself -or- verbal humiliation may also be desirable. Humiliation elicits deep brain chemical responses that result in sexual arousal and orgasm enhancement
4. Bisexual / Gay – the bi/gay cuckold wishes to experience another man’s cock, typically submitting to orders from a Cuckoldress to fluff for her or to please the bull’s cock on an ongoing basis. This type of cuck may be in denial over his bisexuality or homosexuality, though sometimes will grow to embrace it
5. Small Penis – the small penis cuckold realizes he can’t please his partner with penetrative sex and moreover realizes the Cuckoldress needs a well hung stud to take care of the fucking. Small penis cuckies often enjoy humiliation
6. Performance – a performance cuckold has sexual performance issues, typically performance anxiety, erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation. This type of cucky does not necessarily sport a small penis. May enjoy humiliation re: their predicament
7. Sissy – the sissy cuckold enjoys, at the very least, wearing panties as a symbol of emasculation. A sissy cuckold may also be a full-fledged crossdresser or crossdressing sissy. This cuckolded type doesn’t feel like a real man and would rather acquiesce to a real man taking care of his partner’s sexual needs
8. BBC – a BBC cuckold derives excitement from knowing his partner seeks sex from black bulls
8. Polyamorous/Shared Wife – this type of cuckold encourages his wife or girlfriend to have sexual relationships or encounters where she doesn’t necessarily let him see or hear about the encounters. This cuckold is aroused by his partner’s sexual pursuits and typically does not feel humiliation re: her choosing other men for sexual liaisons
10. Fusion – fusion cuckolds have fused several of the cuckolding types, such as Traditional Voyeur with Small Penis with Humiliation as one example
11. Fantasy – fantasy cuckolds aren’t in a cuckold relationship. They fantasize about being a cucky and masturbate to their fantasies, masturbate to cuckold and interracial videos or engage in cuckold phone sex. They usually know what type of cuckold they are within their fantasies, e.g., BBC / Small Penis
12. Submissive / FLR – is submissive to a dominant Cuckoldress in a Female Led Relationship
13. Cuck – a cuck is a beta male, this term is trending as an internet pejorative.
Recently, an intriguing article in the New York Observer focused on the fascination with one of the most misunderstood fetishes on the planet, financial domination. Most mainstream media articles shock and mislead readers about findom. Some articles tout the pursuit as bossy, talentless girls looking for easy money. Other articles position greedy financial dominatrices plying their trade by swindling, blackmailing, extorting, etc. Finally, the Observer article titled “Hardcore Money Managers” got it right in an explicit sense. However, what was implicit in the article is that financial domination is a form of cuckolding. Below is a quote from the article where a finsub explains the evolutionary relationship dynamic between Money Domme and money slave:
The relationship of finsub to Financial Domme is essentially cuckold to Cuckoldress. A finsub recognizes that a Financial Domme is an Alpha Female and Cuckoldress. A Cuckoldress finesses beta males to bestow her with cash and gifts. This behavior is what beta males have done in deference to an Alpha Female throughout evolution. The Findom Cuckoldress uses the gifts (examples: clothing, jewelry, heels, vacations) purchased by her devotees to attract or excite her Alpha Male lovers. She can spend the cash to feather her nest or to lure Alpha Males to her bed. All the elements of cuckolding are in play. The Alpha Female reinforces her Cuckoldress status while enforcing the role of the beta males as cuckolds.
Cuckolds are expressly not for mating, they are expected to be providers and to improve the quality of life of superior females. All theories are basic tenets of evolutionary biology. The strongest and most desirable females focus on mating with the strongest and most desirable males. When cuckolds perform their duties, they support the perpetuation of the species at a primal level.
Read the New York Observer financial domination article here
In pop culture and social media, the word cuckold and cuck are being overused as insults to describe a weaker or lesser male, a beta male. Cuckold and its abbreviated form cuck aren’t being held true to the original definition and context perpetuated across many centuries. Perhaps there is a reason why our culture is categorizing beta males as cucks. One theory about this phenomenon maintains that a cuckold or cuck is such a weak male, he would not challenge another man having sex with his wife or girlfriend. Another theory is that men emasculate one another in an attempt to trump other men and order themselves within a virtual hierarchy. After all, the put-down “fuckboy” had nothing to do with fucking.
The word cuck and cuckold are being seen and used by millions. This may lead to a greater knowledge, pursuit and acceptance of the lifestyle. The negative risk is oversaturation. FYI: And speaking of cuck, the Cuckoldress hasn’t even delved into the political term cuckservative yet!
