What Type of Cuckold Are You?

There are many different types of cuckolds. Being a cuckold isn’t one-size-fits-all typecasting. Here are the major types of cuckolds with brief definitions:

1. Traditional Voyeur – a voyeur cuckold enjoys seeing his wife or girlfriend experiencing sex with another man in a cuckolding scenario

2. Audio Voyeur – an audio voyeur cuckold enjoys hearing his wife or girlfriend experiencing sex with another man -or- he wants to hear the stories recapping the sexual scenarios to excite him. He does not want to see the sex scene as it may be too intense and humiliating for him to experience in person

3. Humiliation – a humiliation cuckold wishes to experience deep humiliation and sexual rejection. The act of cuckolding may be strong enough humiliation unto itself -or- verbal humiliation may also be desirable. Humiliation elicits deep brain chemical responses that result in sexual arousal and orgasm enhancement

4. Bisexual / Gay – the bi/gay cuckold wishes to experience being with another man’s cock under orders from a Cuckoldress to fluff him or to even please the bull’s cock on an ongoing basis. This type of cuck is often in denial over his bisexuality or homosexuality, though sometimes will grow to embrace it

5. Small Penis – the small penis cuckold realizes he can’t please his partner sexually and needs another man to take care of this. Small penis cucks often enjoy humiliation

6. Performance – a performance cuckold has sexual performance issues, typically performance anxiety, erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation. This type of cucky does not have to have a small penis. They may enjoy humiliation re: their predicament

7. Sissy – the sissy cuckold enjoys, at the least, wearing panties and may be a full-fledged crossdresser or crossdressing sissy. This cucked type doesn’t feel like a real man and would rather see or have a real man take care of his partner’s sexual needs

8. BBC – a BBC cuckold derives excitement from knowing his partner seeks sex from black bulls

8. Polyamorous/Shared Wife – this type of cuckold allows his wife or girlfriend to have sexual relationships or sexual encounters where she doesn’t necessarily let him watch or hear about the encounters. This cuckold is aroused by his partner’s sexual pursuits and does not necessarily feel humiliation in their partner choosing others for sexual liaisons.

10. Fusion – fusion cuckolds have fused several of the cuckolding types, such as Traditional Voyeur with Small Penis with Humiliation

11. Fantasy – fantasy cuckolds aren’t in a cuckold relationship. They fantasize about being a cucky and masturbate to their fantasies or masturbate to cuckold and interracial videos. They usually know what type of cuckold they are within their fantasies, e.g., BBC / Small Penis

12. Cuck – a cuck is a beta male, trending as an internet pejorative.

Cuckold Art

cuckold art

In this classic painting dated 1664 by Dutch master and contemporary of Rembrandt, Jan Steen, titled “Celebrating the Birth”, we see cuckolding en tableau. This scene is visually rich with cuckolding imagery. Note the grinning man miming the cuckold sign of the horns above the baby’s head. Interestingly, art historians determined the cuckold hand sign had been painted over during the 19th century. This defacement was likely ordered by a collector or curator who took offense to the cuckolding horns and viewed them as profanity. The painting was restored to its original status only thirty years ago.

The man illustrating the cuckold humiliation is believed to be the artist himself, who inserted his likeness into the painting to add contrasting emphasis to the cuckold, an older man holding the newborn baby. Art scholars believe the baby to be a son. A celebration would traditionally be held to herald a male heir. However, this is obviously not the older man’s child, but the child of the man portrayed by the painter. Symbolic elements in the painting reveal more metaphor. The brass bed warmer, conspicuous in the forefront of the painting, signified that coals in the bed warmer were keeping the bed warmed. It denotes a lack of marital sex, that the older husband had lost his libido. The wife is not so much a powerful cuckoldress as a resourceful woman with no other options, but to engage in sex with another man, driven to do so by her husband’s impotency in order to produce heirs or offspring.

The older man is holding quite a large purse, which indicates some level of wealth. This wealth has enabled him to attract the younger bride and to provide for her. But the painter has added a few other elements which mock the supposed father. Namely that he is wearing an apron and holding a set of keys. Key holding in that time was the duty of the woman of the house, sometimes referred to as the chatelaine in larger households. Wearing an apron is a humiliating emasculation. Other symbolism includes the eggshells on the floor, eggs which had been cracked and used as ingredients to prepare a celebratory feast. The term cracking eggs was an expression for having sex in 17th century Europe. Obviously, the girl grabbing the phallic looking limp sausage hanging above the fireplace illustrates strong sexual innuendo. Note her gaze is deliberately directed outward to those viewing the painting, instead of interacting with the family, midwife or other cooks. She wants us to be aware of the sexual farce unfolding before us.

Cuckold and Cuck are getting overused!

In pop culture and social media, the word cuckold and cuck are being overused as insults to describe a weaker or lesser male, a beta male. Cuckold and its abbreviated form cuck aren’t being held true to the original definition and context perpetuated across many centuries. Perhaps there is a reason why our culture is categorizing beta males as cucks. One theory about this phenomenon maintains that a cuckold or cuck is such a weak male, he would not challenge another man having sex with his wife or girlfriend. Another theory is that men emasculate one another in an attempt to trump other men and order themselves within a virtual hierarchy. After all, the put-down “fuckboy” had nothing to do with fucking.

The word cuck and cuckold are being seen and used by millions. This may lead to a greater knowledge, pursuit and acceptance of the lifestyle. The negative risk is oversaturation. FYI: And speaking of cuck, the Cuckoldress hasn’t even delved into the political term cuckservative yet!

Sheer Control by Zara Lynne, a novel about a shared wife

In the ebook Sheer Control by Zara Lynne, a novel about a shared wife, a submissive bride begins to explore her sexuality and take lovers outside her marriage. The couple is traveling in the south of France and decide to spend time in a post card picture perfect city. The locale adds to the ambience of the novel. The wife is extremely sexy. The husband notices that French men are attracted to her. He encourages his wife to indulge desires she hasn’t so far expressed in taking other men to bed as a shared wife. She is a submissive hotwife versus a classic cuckoldress, but her husband must still deal with his feelings of jealousy as he watches his stunning wife having sex with other men.

In a previous article here on Cuckoldress, the sexual benefits of swinging vs. cuckolding were discussed by a swinging couple, but in this book, there is a different dynamic. The sexual dynamic is that of a shared wife where the husband has given permission to a submissive hotwife to take other lovers, and who then enjoys the voyeuristic aspect of watching her with other men. And, in turn, she begins to enjoy the exhibitionism of being with other men sexually to please and arouse her husband. Her husband is not so much a cuckold, since he isn’t dealing with the classic cuckold humiliation, instead he is infused with even more desire for her. Sexual competition increases the male libido. And while any husband setting his wife free of sexual marital bonds will have to deal with jealousies, their marriage becomes more sexually charged. Remember that our largest sexual organ is our brain, and that we can experience heightened arousal from visual stimulation such as exhibitionism. The Cuckoldress highly recommends this classy erotica, Sheer Control by Zara Lynne as well as other ebooks in the same series!

Sheer Control Zara Lynne

Cuckoldress Fail?

Cuckold vs. Cuckoldress

There was an intriguing article on Salon.com recently about a cuckold relationship in which the girlfriend felt that she had been used to satisfy her ex-boyfriend’s cuckold fetish. While the idea of being a Cuckoldress and living the lifestyle appealed to her and while she craved having the power, she ended up feeling trapped in the cuckold relationship instead. In her confessional story, this woman felt she had been manipulated by her ex-boyfriend. She divulged that she felt post-relationship remorse over how her ex-boyfriend had put his selfish sexual needs ahead of hers. He topped her from the bottom, as beta males, submissives or cuckolds are sometimes known to do in order to try to get what they want. I doubt she will ever get involved with a cuckold again. Was this a Cuckoldress fail? Not essentially. The sexual freedom to pursue lusty liaisons with well-hung men or Alpha males while being in a relationship with a cuckold simply did not work for her.

Cuckold Fetish

Many men do not start out in their sex life as a cuckold. Somewhere along the way, cuckolds develop these sexual tendencies and then their full-blown fetish follows. Just like any fetish introduced into a relationship, it may not be a “shared” fetish. A cucky cannot expect that his spouse, his girlfriend or any woman he meets will share this fetish with him. Becoming a Cuckoldress usually roots in dominance or desire for sexual freedom and power. While I often discuss with men who call for cuckold phone sex, how to get their wives or girlfriends interested in cuckolding them, there are obviously women who do not want to pursue this whatsoever. There are many reasons why women may not want to indulge in a cuckold relationship. Women may be sexually conservative, feel insecure about their looks, consider cuckolding to be cheating, feel no need to sleep with other men, feel that fantasizing or role playing is enough of a satisfying sexual expression, etc. But there are some women who can be persuaded to go further into cuckoldry. I don’t want to divulge my secrets here on how to turn your wife or girlfriend into a Cuckoldress. But one hint is that you have to let her think it’s her idea, not yours. Call me live on Niteflirt for more.

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