Recently, an intriguing article in the New York Observer focused on the fascination with one of the most misunderstood fetishes on the planet, financial domination. Most mainstream media articles shock and mislead readers about findom. Some articles tout the pursuit as bossy, talentless girls looking for easy money. Other articles position greedy financial dominatrices plying their trade by swindling, blackmailing, extorting, etc. Finally, the Observer article titled “Hardcore Money Managers” got it right in an explicit sense. However, what was implicit in the article is that financial domination is a form of cuckolding. Below is a quote from the article where a finsub explains the evolutionary relationship dynamic between Money Domme and money slave:
The relationship of finsub to Financial Domme is essentially cuckold to Cuckoldress. A finsub is a cuckold who recognizes that a Financial Domme is an Alpha Female Cuckoldress. A Cuckoldress finesses beta males to bestow her with cash and gifts. This behavior is what beta males have done in deference to an Alpha Female throughout evolution. The Findom Cuckoldress uses the gifts (examples: clothing, jewelry, heels, vacations) purchased by finsubs to attract or excite her Alpha Male lovers. She can spend the cash to feather her nest or to lure Alpha Males to her bed. All the elements of cuckolding are in play. The Alpha Female reinforces her Alpha Cuckoldress status while enforcing the role of the beta males as cuckolds. Cuckolds are expressly not for mating, they are expected to be providers and to improve the quality of life of superior females. It’s all based on tenets of evolutionary biology. The strongest and most desirable females focus on mating with the strongest and most desirable males. When cuckolds perform their duties, they support the perpetuation of the species at a primal level.
Read the New York Observer financial domination article here
Most cuckolds already know the origination of the term cuckold comes from the cuckoo bird, the bird synonymous with the cuckoo clock. Cuckoo birds have an interesting mating phenomenon that orders the Alpha and beta of the species, both male and female. Alpha cuckoo birds mate with superior Alpha females. Alpha female cuckoo birds reject beta male sexual advances. However, female cuckoo birds will allow beta male cuckoos to help build nests, sit on eggs to keep them warm and feed hatchlings. This especially frees the Alpha female of such time-consuming responsibilities and allows her to resume her sexual availability for Alpha male mating… furthering the perpetuation of the species. In addition, Alpha female cuckoos will sometimes lay their eggs in a lesser female’s nest expecting that female and her beta male cuckoo to raise her feathered flock.
As observers of cuckoo bird behavior, Germans, Swiss and Austrians began fashioning the signature clocks centuries ago. These Europeans also originated the the cuckoo bird’s name from the unique sound of the cuckoo’s bird call. The term cuckold is derived from the cuckoo’s sexual and domestic behavior. Cuckoldry exists in many species as cuckolding is, at its very essence, crucial to the survival of a species. Cuckolding frees up genetically superior members of a species from familial duties, so they can focus on mate selection and actual mating.
It is important for beta males and cuckolds to realize they are not viewed as mating material by females. Nevertheless, cuckolds do have a place in the world, to sustain higher status females who seek superior males for mating and to support these females once they do. Alpha males will literally swoop around spreading their genetic material. It is their purpose. Their purpose is not to be burdened with raising a family or a flock. That burden falls on the cuckoo cuckold.
In this classic painting dated 1664 by Dutch master and contemporary of Rembrandt, Jan Steen, titled “Celebrating the Birth”, we see cuckolding en tableau. This scene is visually rich with cuckolding imagery. Note the grinning man miming the cuckold sign of the horns above the baby’s head. Interestingly, art historians determined the cuckold hand sign had been painted over during the 19th century. This was likely ordered by a collector or curator who took offense to the cuckolding horns and viewed them as profanity. The painting was restored to its original status only thirty years ago.
The man illustrating the cuckold humiliation is believed to be the artist himself, who inserted his likeness into the painting to add contrasting emphasis to the cuckold, an older man holding the newborn baby. Art scholars believe the baby to be a son. A celebration would traditionally be held to celebrate a male heir. However, this is obviously not the older man’s child, but the child of the man portrayed by the painter. Symbolic elements in the painting reveal more metaphor. The brass bed warmer, conspicuous in the forefront of the painting, signified that coals in the bed warmer were keeping the bed warmed. It denotes a lack of marital sex, that the older husband lost his libido. The wife is not so much a powerful cuckoldress as a resourceful woman with no other options, but to engage in sex with another man, driven to do so by her husband’s impotency in order to produce heirs or offspring.
The older man is holding quite a large purse, which indicates some level of wealth. This wealth has enabled him to attract the younger bride and to provide for her. But the painter has added a few other elements which mock the purported father. Namely that he is wearing an apron and holding a set of keys. Key holding in that time was the duty of the woman of the house, sometimes referred to as the chatelaine in larger households. Wearing an apron is a humiliating emasculation. Other symbolism includes the eggshells on the floor, eggs which had been cracked and used as ingredients to prepare a celebratory feast. The term cracking eggs was an expression for having sex in 17th century Netherlands. Obviously, the girl grabbing the phallic looking limp sausage hanging above the fireplace is strong sexual innuendo. Note her gaze is deliberately directed outward to those viewing the painting, instead of interacting with the family, midwife or other cooks. She wants us to be aware of the sexual farce unfolding before us.
There is a huge uproar over L.A. Clippers owner Donald Sterling’s taped comments to his ex-girlfriend V. about her interactions with black men and the rules he was imposing in regard to how she conduct herself with blacks. The majority of this uproar is purely focused on outrage over his racism. However, just for a moment, consider another viewpoint. Consider that Donald Sterling is not only a racist, but also a cuckold.
Quotes from his tape originally appeared on TMZ.com and I will re-quote one of them to illustrate my point:
“You can sleep with [black people]. You can bring them in, you can do whatever you want. The little I ask you is not to promote it on (Instagram) … and not to bring them to my games.”
Only a cuckold would say this to his girlfriend. Cuckolds often fantasize, as my blog illustrates, about beautiful women having sex with black men. He basically tells V. she can bring BBC studs to the house. A popular cuckolding fantasy embraces sexually dominant Alpha black males coming to a cuckold’s house to have sex with his girlfriend or wife. Sterling asks that V. not Instagram photos of her with black men, including NBA great Magic Johnson and L.A. Dodgers player Matt Kemp (who is mixed race), and to not bring them to “his” games. Clearly, this is a man who doesn’t mind private sexual cuckolding, but wants his public image to be that of a man of power, not that of a weak, inferior cuck. He is clearly territorial over his team and the ownership of his team is strongly tied to his public persona. He does not want his white beta male sexuality to be in question.
I believe for his interracial cuckold fantasy to be upheld, he must perceive V. to be Latina and not black, even though she is mixed race, of both hispanic and black heritage. V. admitted whenever she brought up with Sterling that she was part black, Sterling immediately dismissed it, as if he didn’t want to acknowledge it at all. And in the tape, he told her that she is “supposed to be a delicate white or a delicate Latina girl.” Sterling is apparently delusional over his girlfriend’s true ethnicity. It would ruin his interracial cuckold fantasy for him to see her as anything but white or Latina.
V. Stiviano and the word golddigger are now synonymous in pop culture. Stiviano, nee Vanessa Perez, was gifted nearly 2 million in real estate and luxury vehicles. Plus sources observed she had a credit card that most likely came from Sterling to use to shop till she got dropped. V. lived the high life for 4 years as Sterling’s courtesan. V. claims their relationship was professional and that he was essentially paying her to make public appearances with him. This fact became even more believable given news stories have corroborated rumors that Sterling is suffering from prostate cancer. What older rich man with a few good years left doesn’t want a beautiful girl by his side to enjoy her company? As a billionaire, the gifts he gave V. and her use of his credit card to charge whatever she wished were a mere pittance to him.
Sterling changed his last name from Tokowitz to Sterling, in essence, ashamed to carry a name that alluded to his Jewish heritage. The name Sterling is all about wealth and acquired bling. He is clearly a very insecure man, insecure sexually, insecure ethnically and insecure with his image. He has been known to keep his hair an unflattering shade of brown, eschewing more age-appropriate and less desperate looking naturally grey hair. Perhaps he has a small penis, it wouldn’t surprise me. Perhaps he is no longer virile at age 80 and beyond boner assistance that Viagra could offer. He can “buy” a beautiful and sexy young girlfriend with his money, but he cannot satisfy her sexually. Still, he longs to be aroused in the only still functioning sexual organ he has, his brain. Cuckolding fulfills that.
For his cuckold fantasy to hold its power, V. must not interact with black men in any social settings or be seen with them at his games. He upholds her as a cuckoldress who must be above common interactions with black people. Her only association with black men must be sexual. His racism is evident from his inferences that black people are not to be associated with, that black people are beneath her and beneath him. This is a very antebellum and class-biased attitude toward blacks that acts in ironic counterpoint to permitting V. to have what Sterling perceives to be interracial sex with black men.
ESPN analyst Chris Broussard stated that Sterling’s racism was similar to that of a black slave master. I would agree. Sterling’s view of black men is that they should go out on the court and do as they are enslaved by contract to do. They are not to be mingled with. However, as early interracial sexual fantasies detailed, white women secretly desired sexual trysts with black slaves. Cuckolding in America is deeply ingrained by the perception of the black male’s sexual superiority over the white male. This paradigm is part of American sexual culture and has been for centuries.
It remains to be seen what the fallout of this situation will be for Donald Sterling. I imagine he will be asked to turn in his NBA owner’s “card” and will live the rest of his days in the shadows of the hall of shame.
Coda: In 2011, a guest blogger wrote about Cuckold Psychology on my Cuckoldress blog. Click the link to get a glimpse inside a white cuckold’s mind. Specific elements of his analysis might very well apply to Donald Sterling.
UK Interracial Cuckolding Update by peewee cuckold …
The UK’s most popular glamour girl, Kelly Brook, has finally gone black and become one of the ultimate Cuckoldresses. There were been rumours before, but now it’s official, she’s dating David McIntosh, as per the pic below. A lot of British whitebois believed Kelly to be the most naturally sexy girl in Britain. So, it is special to see this figurehead of beauty being finally unleashed on a real man, and I’m wasting no opportunity to draw it to your blog readers’ attention. I can tell it has even registered deeply with my fiancee as she looked at photos of them together online, but she’s not drawn to much discussion yet. The most she’s managed is, “They look right together.” Now Kelly Brook is cuckolding all the whitebois in the UK with her muscular black bull.
US Interracial Cuckolding update from Sara … Yes, peewee, even stateside, Kelly Brook and her black beefcake boyfriend are catching on, well, especially her boyfriend, if you watch the TMZ video below. They were vacationing here in Miami Beach!
My fiancee and I went for an Indian meal at a restaurant recently and were forced to wait in the upstairs bar area for an hour before being seated. Another couple in that area were a pretty brunette and a black man. I did not mention anything, but sure enough my fiancee whispered into my ear, “She must like dirty sex then!” I looked around and realized she meant the young brunette, and replied “Why?”. My fiancee explained “Well, she must like big cock. I bet she likes it rough. They use their big cocks from behind and pull hair and stuff, don’t they?!” It was more a statement than a question. But I thought long and hard how best to reply. I didn’t want to dispel the notion that black men are better endowed or better in bed than whitebois. That would betray all your teachings, Sara. So, I replied, “Just because they’ve got bigger cocks doesn’t mean they’re all dirty and rough. He might be very sensitive when he needs to be. The rough sex is a stereotype I think that porn videos put out there.” My fiancee disagreed and said she thinks it’s true based on what her girlfriends who have been with black men told her about their interracial sex experiences. It made me wonder if there is in interracial sex stereotype or whether it’s true if black men are more sexually aggressive than white men.
We were watching MTV and a video by Pharrell came on. My fiancee kept saying – again – how much she loved him. I then mocked shock and said I had better watch her. My fiancee replied, “If we were out together, and Pharrell was there, I wouldn’t just leave you for him!” I had never suggested she might. Which made me think she must have been imagining such a scenario herself!! Little does my fiancee know that deep down I dream of being her cuckold, as she entertains a string of huge black men. I want it SO badly!
peewee cuckold notes how white girls in the UK, from his fiancee’s BFF to celebs, are Interracial Cuckoldresses
It’s been an interesting start to this year for us. We heard yesterday, via text messages, that my fiancee’s friend, Jennifer (name changed and, in fact, all names changed in this blog post) has now separated from her white husband. We’re still waiting on specifics, but it sounds like she’s been cheating on him or rather, cuckolding him! My fiancee is convinced that she’s been “fucking a black man, because she always talks about ‘big black cock'”! Has Jennifer decided to exercise her rights as an Interracial Cuckoldress and has she chosen black male sexual superiority over white male inferiority? This provoked so many thrilling chats and text messages tonight and today. Here are some examples of them:
Fiancee: “She always mentions big black cock”.
Me: “What, always?”
Fiancee: “Yes, every time I’ve been with her lately, she talks about black cock.”
Me: “Wow. Well… how does she raise the subject [I laugh]; does she say ‘Hi, how are you? Oh, getting back to big black cock…’?”
Fiancee: “I don’t know, she just always finds a way to talk about black men.”
Me: “Maybe she’s slept with her husband’s black friend? You told me she had done in the past?”
Fiancee: “It won’t be Damian. Jennifer likes strong black men. He’s soft and light coloured. She likes really big black cock! No, it won’t be Damian.”
Me: “….oh right… Oh my God…”
Me: “…it’ll be hard for her husband to take. Seeing Jennifer with a huge black man.”
Fiancee: “Oh it will. Poor lad.”
Me: “Why did she marry a white man if she prefers black men?”
Fiancee: “She did love him. But she’s always loved big black cock. You’ve heard her – she doesn’t deny it.”
Me: “Well this was always going to happen eventually then?”
Fiancee: “Yeah, probably. So I bet she’s told her hubby that she’s been fucking a big black man.”
Me: “Do you think she’ll introduce her new man to the group [i.e. the couples, my fiancee and I included]?”
Fiancee: “In time, I think she will. Yes.”
Me: “It’ll be hard for us blokes ’cause we always sit together. We’ll have to embrace this huge black man in her ex hubby’s place whilst you girls sit across the room talking about how much better he is than her ex!”
Fiancee: “Yeah, it will be hard on you boys. But I bet you don’t say anything!!”
Me: “Oh no way. I wouldn’t dare!”
Fiancee: “Exactly. In a way, it’s good that her next fella will be a big black guy, because he won’t take any shit of you lot!”
Me: “… true…”
Me: “Hasn’t she made her husband get her name tattoo’d all over his body?”
Fiancee: “Oh God yeah! She has. He’s covered in her name!”
Me: “That’s out of order. She’s totally fucked him over now.”
Fiancee: “Yes, that’s harsh.”
Me: “I bet she gets her black man’s name all over her body now!”
Fiancee: “Yeah, like my other friend Amelia’s little sister. She’ll get ‘Reggie’ or something inked on her neckline!”
Little did my fiancee know this, but I had so many erections just reading her text messages, as she described her best friend’s addiction to big black cock, and the undertone that proves that my fiancee is aware, and fully endorsing of, the stereotypical sexual superiority of the black male. I hope you are proud of my role here too Empress Sara, as I have created an environment where my fiancee feels totally comfortable in describing black men as superior specimens to her own betrothed. She KNOWS that I am aware of the fact that black men are bigger and better, and that nowadays attractive white women will gravitate to big black cock!
Just today, the two stories in the newspaper that I chose to read out to my fiancee were:
1) How Big Brother hottie and glamour model Hazel O’Sullivan is now dating black football player, Andros Townsend;
2) How Nadine Coyle, from Girls Aloud, is now going to marry Jason Bell, the huge black NFL father of her imminent baby
My fiancee took the news in her stride, as if recognizing that ALL white celeb-u-hotties are going black. I had deliberately stayed in my dowdy pjs all day, and ran around doing household errands, so as to emphasize the difference between the virile and satisfying sexual potency of the black men we have been talking about, and the inadequate but domesticated dutiful little whitebois. In time, I dream that Jennifer will influence my fiancee to follow her lead. God knows I’ve heard enough to realize that my fiancee is in awe of the big black cock!! Only I pray that my fiancee will keep me dangling like a whiteboi puppet as she goes black, and perhaps agree to let me watch as she parts her thighs for a massive black man. Who knows, I may even be allowed to clean her up afterwards!
There was an intriguing article on Salon.com recently about a cuckold relationship in which the girlfriend felt that she had been used to satisfy her ex-boyfriend’s cuckold fetish. While the idea of being a Cuckoldress and living the lifestyle appealed to her and while she craved having the power, she ended up feeling trapped in the cuckold relationship instead. In her confessional story, this woman felt she had been manipulated by her ex-boyfriend. She divulged that she felt post-relationship remorse over how her ex-boyfriend had put his selfish sexual needs ahead of hers. He topped her from the bottom, as beta males or submissives or cuckolds are sometimes known to do in order to try to get what they want. I doubt she will ever get involved with a cucky again. Was this a Cuckoldress fail? Not essentially. The sexual freedom to pursue lusty liaisons with well-hung men or Alpha males while being in a relationship with a cuck simply did not appeal to her.
Many men do not start out in their sex life as a cuckold. Somewhere along the way, cucks develop these sexual tendencies and then their full-blown fetish follows. Just like any fetish introduced into a relationship, it may not be a “shared” fetish. A cuck cannot expect that his spouse, his girlfriend or any woman he meets will share this fetish with him. Becoming a Cuckoldress usually roots in dominance or desire for sexual freedom and power. While I often discuss with men who call for cuckold phone sex, how to get their wives or girlfriends interested in cuckolding them, there are obviously women who will not want to pursue this whatsoever. There are many reasons why women may not want to pursue cuckolding their mate. Women may be sexually conservative, feel insecure about their looks, consider cuckolding to be cheating, feel no need to sleep with other men, feel that fantasizing or role playing is enough of a satisfying sexual expression, etc. But there are some women who can be persuaded to go further into cuckoldry. I don’t want to divulge my secrets here on how to turn your wife or girlfriend into a Cuckoldress. But one hint is that you have to let her think it’s her idea, not yours. Call me live on Niteflirt for more.