There was an intriguing article on Salon.com recently about a cuckold relationship in which the girlfriend felt that she had been used to satisfy her ex-boyfriend’s cuckold fetish. While the idea of being a Cuckoldress and living the lifestyle appealed to her and while she craved having the power, she ended up feeling trapped in the cuckold relationship instead. In her confessional story, this woman felt she had been manipulated by her ex-boyfriend. She divulged that she felt post-relationship remorse over how her ex-boyfriend had put his selfish sexual needs ahead of hers. He topped her from the bottom, as beta males or submissives or cuckolds are sometimes known to do in order to try to get what they want. I doubt she will ever get involved with a cucky again. Was this a Cuckoldress fail? Not essentially. The sexual freedom to pursue lusty liaisons with well-hung men or Alpha males while being in a relationship with a cuck simply did not appeal to her.
Many men do not start out in their sex life as a cuckold. Somewhere along the way, cucks develop these sexual tendencies and then their full-blown fetish follows. Just like any fetish introduced into a relationship, it may not be a “shared” fetish. A cuck cannot expect that his spouse, his girlfriend or any woman he meets will share this fetish with him. Becoming a Cuckoldress usually roots in dominance or desire for sexual freedom and power. While I often discuss with men who call for cuckold phone sex, how to get their wives or girlfriends interested in cuckolding them, there are obviously women who will not want to pursue this whatsoever. There are many reasons why women may not want to pursue cuckolding their mate. Women may be sexually conservative, feel insecure about their looks, consider cuckolding to be cheating, feel no need to sleep with other men, feel that fantasizing or role playing is enough of a satisfying sexual expression, etc. But there are some women who can be persuaded to go further into cuckoldry. I don’t want to divulge my secrets here on how to turn your wife or girlfriend into a Cuckoldress. But one hint is that you have to let her think it’s her idea, not yours. Call me live on Niteflirt for more.
Here is my embarrassing confession for your blog readers about how I was turned into a cuckold without even realizing. When my wife and I were first dating, it was only a few weeks into our dating relationship when she brought over her big black dildo to play with. Instead of me being a man and saying, get that thing out of here, my cock is enough for you (I have 7 inches), she made me lick her pussy while I fucked her with the BBC toy. She got so wet. I would fuck her after the toy had been inside of her and let me tell you that this sex was like sloppy seconds. She was so wet, my cock would slip out of her especially in certain positions like doggy-style. I should have known I was being cuckolded, but I thought it was just what she liked sexually, that she was a little kinky. Then one night when we were out at a club, she told me how at this very club about a year ago, she had fucked a black guy in the bathroom. While I thought that was kind of sexy and edgy, I didn’t know how edgy until she added that she had gone to the club with her white ex-boyfriend (meaning her boyfriend at the time) and hooked up with the black guy in the bathroom. She said she and her ex went home and fucked, but she had made him lick her pussy first. He had commented that her pussy was very salty and she said it was from dancing at the club, the sweat. He believed her! I thought wow he was so naive. But, I definitely kept my eyes on her all night at the club and watched every move she made!
Little did I realize that my girlfriend, now my wife, would be cuckolding me, not just with a BBC dildo, but by going out and having sex with black men at her whim. And when I confronted her about cheating on me, she said she wasn’t cheating on me, that I knew she loved big black cocks from the time we first met! Deeper into our argument, I even mentioned the word cuckold and she didn’t even know what it meant! She was doing this to me, out of sexual desire, out of need, without any knowledge of the concept of cuckolding. After that night, I didn’t even want to admit to myself that I was a cuckold. I tried to brush it off thinking that she was just cheating. But then I realized that I was a cuck and that I needed to accept it and if I wanted to keep my beautiful wife, I’d have to let her fuck well-hung black bulls so that she could experience the ultimate sexual satisfaction she craved, that she could not get from me. And so that is where our relationship is now, and descending deeper into cuckoldry as I now eagerly lick out creampies after she returns home after fucking one of her BBC bulls.
Here is my sad pathetic story about how I got cuckolded by my girlfriend. My girlfriend is always talking about celebrities and loves to read celebrity blogs and especially comments about interracial relationships. She watches the Kardashians reality tv show and then tells me how much Kim and Khloe love big black cock and that she’s seen black cock pictures on the internet and they look so huge. When she tells me this, my whiteboy dick starts to shrink in fear, but then gets hard, knowing how excited she is by black men and their big cocks. One night we had a fight while we were out at a club, we’d been drinking. Whenever she drinks, she gets a little crazy. I shouldn’t have left her there alone, but I did. I knew she could get home to our apartment in a taxi so I wasn’t worried. Well, she didn’t roll in till about 6 a.m. It was light outside and she looked like a ragdoll. Her hair was all messed up, her dress was like, I looked at it and realized her tight black dress with laser cut slits was on backwards. Her stockings were gone. She had no lip gloss left on her lips. She said she needed to take a shower. I could smell rum on her breath when I kissed her, she had been been drinking rum and diet cokes all night. But I also swore I could smell something saltier, like sweat or cum or something.
So I went back to bed and lay there. She took her shower then came in the bedroom. She had popped on one of her little sleep t-shirts and climbed into bed. I tried to have sex with her, but she pushed me away and said she was too tired. Later that morning, but close to noon, while she was still sleeping, her cell phone was vibrating like off the hook. She doesn’t keep her cell phone locked down, so I thought, shit, I’ll check her text messages. Some are from her girls wanting to know if she’s ok, and the others are from a number I don’t recognize. “Is your pussy sore? Want some more of this?” “Wakey wakey taste the bakey.” And then there was a picture of a big black cock. Staring at me on her phone. I wanted to throw the phone against the wall, but instead I jacked off right next to my girlfriend imagining her tight little pussy getting fucked by that huge black cock. Now what do I do?
Cuckolded by a cell phone photo of a BBC
When I bought a new BMW, some girls I know wanted me to take them out clubbing in my new car. They told me I had to be their designated driver and I wasn’t allowed to drink. I didn’t dream that I was going to be cuckolded by hot girls. That night I also had to pay all the door charges and drinks for everyone, even some of their hottie BFFs they ran into. I’ll admit I’m not the hottest guy around by any stretch. I’m kind of nerdy, skinny, pale and wear glasses, but I make a lot of money as a software engineer and the BMW was a reward to myself. I mistakenly thought that in exchange for driving around these girls and paying for everything, at least one of them would flirt with me, but all they did was talk to each other and text and ignore me. Still, just being around three hot chicks all night was giving me a stiffie. Then as the girls got more drunk, they started flirting with other guys at the last club we went to and two of them even split and went home with those guys leaving me with Kyra.
I fantasized that Kyra would be really drunk, horny and want me, but when I was driving her back to her place, all she was doing was texting other friends the details about her two friends who were hooking up. Then Kyra told me as we were getting back to her place was that we should swap cars for the rest of the weekend. Her Hyundai for my BMW. She said she loved the way my new car smelled and she wanted to drive it around and would drop it off Sunday night. I thought I might score some pussy on Sunday night when she brought my BMW back, so I let her have the keys and drove her older Hyundai back home. Then I just jerked off imagining getting some pussy, because of the new BMW. Well, it’s been a week since I’ve seen my BMW. I keep calling and texting Kyra, but all she does is text me back that “you can keep driving the Hyundai cuz it’s what you deserve”. And I feel so powerless and weak. I’ve been masturbating like a cuckold all week thinking about Kyra driving my car and maybe taking her friends out in my car. I think this is what you wrote about on your other blog and called it “car cuckolding”. Plus I know if I call the cops, they will just laugh at me. The pathetic thing is I told all my friends I bought a new Bimmer and they’re like where is it and I lied and said there were some problems with it and it’s being fixed and I’m driving a rental car! I’m so humiliated. I know I’ve been cuckolded by hot girls, even if in this definition of cuckolding, they are ignoring me and driving my car and possibly using my car to go out and hook up with other guys.
weak and cuckolded
Guest post from a cuckold…
just wanted to share my thoughts on the psychology behind interracial cuckoldry. It strikes me that there is not one single explanation behind why a white male may be excited by the prospect of being interracially cuckolded. Web pages dealing with the matter are littered with troll posts accusing the cuckold of being ‘gay’ or ‘racist’. But are those allegations true and reasonable? Yes, no and/or not necessarily in my view.
I suggest that the following standpoints (among others, no doubt) could evoke an erotic sensation within a white male:
1) A white male with latent bisexual or gay tendencies may be unwilling to have sex with a man but can concede to watching his woman in the act with a big black man and thus vicariously experience it through her.
2) Elitist white males who enjoy voyeuristic sex as a power trip may seek to debase and eroticize uneducated black men, perceiving them to pose less of a threat because the wives would supposedly never date them.
3) White males who crave sexual humiliation can seek to objectify black men as the Alpha males (in light of the darker skin, superior athleticism and larger penis size) and thus yearn to be emasculated and marginalized by the superiority of their partner’s big black lover.
4) White males, guilty at their forefathers’ treatment of the black race, can seek spiritual restitution by adopting a submissive role in their dealings with black men, and so deriving a sense of salvation by their complete surrender of their beloved partner to a big black man.
5) Inadequately endowed or impotent white males may develop a sexual insecurity about their shortcomings, in light of the increasingly advertised view that ‘size does matter’ and the modern feminists’ (e.g. Sex And The City, etc) outspoken demands for energetic, talented sexual intercourse. In recognition of their inescapable deficiencies, loving and selfless males may deem it right to encourage and/or support their loving partners in experiencing a bigger, more potent and satisfying penis, and thus better sex, than he himself could ever hope to provide.
6) A white male may be affected by circumstance, as his ex-girlfriend/wife may have left him for a big black man, thus fostering an obvious and reasonable feeling of complete inadequacy and insecurity. Consequently, the white cuckold will often automatically eroticize black males and become fascinated by the unrivaled beauty and power of an interracial pairing.
I am sure this list is far from exhaustive. And perhaps every white boy cuckold is motivated by a combination of reasons. I, for one, believe that I fall under a combination of (3), (5) and (6). But that does not make me either racist or gay, in my humble opinion.
I wonder Empress Sara, would you agree? Or do you perhaps think that all interracial cuckolds (white boys) are feeling a racial reversal because they now believe that black men are superior, or are they also homosexuals or sissies?
I love your site and would welcome your thoughts and constructive advice.
We have ALL noticed the fast-growing trend for the prettiest white girls to attach themselves exclusively to big black men. Who hasn’t?!
That observation was what initially began to impact on me. But my submersion into the interracial cuckold lifestyle is becoming all the more deep because I am, at present, seriously wondering whether my own gorgeous fiance is as curious about being with a well endowed black man as I fear/crave and is on the verge of becoming the Cuckoldress of my dreams/nightmares.
As such, I wanted to document some of the evidence/clues that I have for doubting her exclusivity to my tiny white dick. I had wanted to avoid publishing these details, for fear that it will get back to my girl somehow but I just need your expert guidance so I am prepared to take that risk.
These accounts are 100% true and accurate, and I would welcome your feedback as to whether I have a black cock loving fiance on my hands.
1. Within 2 months of us dating, she told me that she DIDN’T find black men attractive. However, when I pointed out that such a comment might be portrayed as racist, and added that there are lots of handsome black men, she replied, “Yeah, that’s true. Some are good looking. I do know that most girls really like black men. Almost all my friends love black men!
2. She told me that her friend has a black boyfriend called Rocky and that apparently he has a HUGE cock. She remarked, â€œthey say that black men have much bigger cocks, don’t they? I wouldn’t know because I’ve never been with a black man. When I asked whether my dick was too small for her, she cuddled me and told me not to worry and that mine was ok enough.
3. When we noticed an interracial couple walking ahead of us, my fiance blurted out to me, “Oooohh, look “that girl likes black men. She’s in for a good pounding tonight.”
4. She has on 3 separate occasions (one immediately following the above remark) stated, “Can you imagine if I cheated on you with a black guy? That would be the worst thing possible wouldn’t it? It must be hard for men to handle it when a girl has been with black men before.”
5. She told me that if she had to pick a celebrity black guy for her “ultimate list”, it would be 50 Cent, because she couldn’t think of one so I went for the biggest, blackest man I could dream of.
6. She has twice quoted the phrase “once you go black, you never go back” to me. Whilst it was used to comedy effect, the fact that she knows, and uses that phrase with her fiance, is a tad brazen.
7. She remarked on the Next catalog male underwear section, because ALL of the models in those pages were black men. She said, they’ve chosen black men for the underpants, probably because they’re known for having big packages.
8. When I went to pick her up from a work night out, I entered the bar and couldn’t find her. As I journeyed further into the bar, I found her on the dance floor. It was a deserted dance floor, other than my fiance and two black men, with whom she was dancing enthusiastically. As she caught sight of me she walked to me as if nothing had happened, but other patrons were looking at me as I led her away from the dance floor, and I could see they were joking about how my girl had been all over the big black men.
9. I was asked by my fiance whether I’d ever seen a black man’s penis. When I replied yes, she asked what they were like. I replied, bigger and blacker. She looked so lustful and just turned away from me, deep in her own thoughts.
10. She reads all the ladies weekly magazines available, and skips through the pages as she does so. But whenever there is an article/picture about a white celebrity dating a black man, she always reads it, often out loud to me.
11. She is always quick to inform me of those celebrities who only date black men. For example, she went on about Girls Aloud singer Nadine Coyle’s relationship with huge NFL star Jason Bell, popular WAGs Helen Flanaghan and Imogen Thomas, flings with black football players and Cheryl Cole’s reported preference for black men.
12. When a mutual friend was telling us both that her younger sister was going off the rails, was only with black guys and has just had a tattoo of a black lover’s name on her shoulders, my fiance was fascinated. So much so that she 5 (FIVE) times, within that hour, stressed to me that the younger sister’s preferred black men were really black and you know, proper black men.
13. Recently, she told me that she loves R&B and rap, and that she does find black men cool.
14. One of her best friends recently told her that she had previously slept with a black man. My fiance was surprised and told me she didn’t know that her friend had a slutty past. When I reminded her that lots of white girls sleep with black men nowadays and that I’m therefore lucky that she still likes white boys, she replied only with, you’re right.
15. When we were about to attend one of her family weddings recently, she took the chance to flick through the family members who I would be meeting. Out of the 5 or 6 girls she showed me, she only mentioned the dating habits of one who just so happened to be really into black men. I looked at the girl, who was absolutely gorgeous, and asked, what, only black? My fiance replied, yeah, she just loves black men.
16. We recently read Page 3 of a newspaper featuring a story about glamour girl Sam Cooke dating Man United’s black centre back Chris Smalling. My fiance stated,all the Page 3 girls go with black men don’t they?. I replied that I knew that Amii and Keeley like black men, and expanded by saying, I think most girls with really hot bodies seem to prefer black men nowadays! Certainly in England. My fiance nodded her head.
17. I bought her and her friend tickets to the Usher concert. When I drove them there, she and her mate kept going on about how gorgeous he is, and how he could get any girl he wanted. My fiance then bought me a pair of panties with OMG emblazened across the ass and a t-shirt with Usher’s naked chest imprinted on the front. She laughed when I put them on, but screamed like never before when I made love to her wearing the t-shirt.
18. When I told her my brother’s girlfriend is going on holiday with her friends to Ayia Napa, a resort on the island of Cyprus, she replied, that’s where girls go if they want to be with black men! It’s where they go for black cock! It’s well known.
19. She wants us to go to the Caribbean on holiday.
20. When I bought some JLS (a popular UK black boyband who now promote safe sex) condoms for us, as a joke, she asked, will they be ok for you, because black men probably need a bigger size don’t they?
21. After I’d taken her to see a performance of Romeo & Juliet, in which Romeo was played by a big black guy, she remarked, I didn’t like it, but I admit the two leads looked really hot together.
22. In a conversation with her sister-in-law the other day, she finally conceded that she DOES find black men really attractive. But she feels that she has been conditioned not to go for black men by her brother, who would disown her if she ever did. Her sister-in-law duly advised that she herself HAD been with black men. My fiance looked stunned, but giggled with her sister-in-law as her brother stormed out of the room like a petulent, humiliated little boy. I then sat by her side, stroking her thigh in silence, as they both discussed all the black men they most fancy.
23. My fiance loves to watch music videos featuring black music artists, this is almost exclusively the only music videos she watches.
24. My fiance had a long chat with me about her best friend, admitting that she seeks big cocks, so much so that she recently told a white boy, who tried to drill her with a small dick, to stop after less than a minute because “she couldn’t even feel him”! When I used the term ‘Size Queen’ to describe her, my fiance agreed, explaining that her BFF had indeed become that way, and now the first thing she mentions when recounting a new date is the size of the new man’s penis!
25. We were watching an episode of Little Britain (funny sketch show) in which the blonde lead character is raving about her new black boyfriend and even used the phrase “once you’ve gone black, you never go back”. My fiance laughed, and said to me, “she’s like me”!! (She was referring to her joke use of the phrase when she was overheard saying it to me by a foreign waiter last year. So although it wasn’t as brutal as it seemed, it sounded soooooo right!!).
26. When X Factor came on over here, Cheryl Cole has been replaced by the lead singer, Tulissa, of a UK band called N Dubz. Like Cheryl, Tulissa is regarded by those in the know to be ‘black only’. It would seem my fiance is one of those in the know. Because when Tulissa came to life when judging the talents of a hot black stud, my girl said “yeah, well Tulissa will love him ‘coz he’s a black guy. She loves black men”. I agreed and subtly pointed out that Kelly Rowland (the other female judge) will no doubt share Tulissa’s praise, and then reminded my fiance that her predecessor, Cheryl, was also partial to black guys. My fiance thought about what I’d just said, and then calmly stated, in such a matter of fact kind of a way, “they all love black men don’t they. Big black men. They all love them”. This time, I just snuggled her submissively as she no doubt thought about the words she’d just spoken.
27. On holiday in Jamaica, when we saw some white American guys walking away from an African sunglasses salesman, laughing as though mocking him, I pointed it out and said that I thought that was cruel. My fiance replied “they’re probably just jealous. I bet he’s got a massive cock!” I was so shocked I just laughed!!
28. Whilst reading a paper around the pool, there was a feature on Pixie Lott. I asked my fiance who Pixie was dating (as I had seen pics of her with some white English guy). My fiance responded by saying “she likes black men”. I knew that this wasn’t necessarily true, and that Pixie was currently with a white boy, but I just accepted my girl’s version and replied despondently, ‘they all do. they love black guys don’t they?” My fiance didn’t respond to my question, perhaps mistaking it merely as an obvious statement of fact.
29. Over the course of our summer vacation holiday, and since our return, she has essentially cajoled me into offering to become her attentive slave – in a nice way. She has deprived me of sex every night, citing tiredness. But instead she cleverly seized on my comment about really enjoying stroking her body and hair, to such an extent that over the last few nights, after she has told me sex is off the menu, I have actually ASKED if I can stroke her. She of course ‘allows’ me this pleasure and then I lie next to her, naked with my pathetic white dickie all hard and stiff, gently and lovingly caressing her body and stroking her hair until she falls asleep.
30. Last night, she allowed me to stroke her whilst I watched the football on television. I did so for over an hour, until she complained of feeling tired. At that time, I had pulled her pj bottoms over her bottom and had been stroking her naked ass cheeks as well as her back. But when she mentioned being tired, there was still 20 minutes of the game left but I dutifully pulled her pj bottoms back over her gorgeous bum, turned off the television and said “well let’s get you to bed and I’ll stroke you to sleep – if that’s ok?”. My fiance, for the first time, uttered the phrase “Good boy” to me. I felt so proud.
31. Whilst in bed, stroking my girl’s hair, she read the newspaper, commenting only on two stories. The first was about Cheryl Cole’s latest alleged romance, again with a black man. Then about Steve Jones’ supposed trysts with Keeley Hazell. My fiance’s words, as I stroked her submissively, were “Keeley will be doing this for her career, because she’s like Cheryl. She likes black football players”! I didn’t reply, but I started pathetically and lavishly kissing her shoulders with so much enthusiasm as I stroked her lush hair and feebly pushed my hard little dickie into her thighs, to which my fiance simply said “Not tonight, ok.”
I am pretty sure there have been many, many, many other little comments and glances that have led me to wonder whether my gorgeous fiance may be truly craving black men and that her becoming a Cuckoldress is the natural order of things. Perhaps she’s been dreaming of making me her cuckold? I just cannot ignore the feeling I have: it seems to me that black men are now the new Alpha male in the western world and that beautiful, young, independent white girls are now lusting after these real men like never before.
As such, I feel that I should now take the plunge, risk whatever humiliation comes my way, and support my fiance in going black. I will continue to drop little hints that I would understand her taking a black lover and that I am totally and utterly submissive to these real men. In time, I am convinced that a big black stud will be in our bedroom fucking my sweet fiance like I could never, ever hope to.
But Cuckoldress, do you agree? Or am I misreading the signs? Your expert advice and guidance would be very much appreciated.
Cuckoldress Sara –
I’ve followed your other interracial cuckold blog Sara’s Playroom since 2007 and am a long time fan of yours and your cuckold stories and articles. I’ll cut right to it. I think my girlfriend is a Cuckoldress without realizing it. I have a small dick and there’s no way that I can please her in bed except orally. I know the only way she gets off is when I do down on her first, then I’m in such a sexual frenzy by the time I get to fuck her, I cum very quick. She doesn’t seem pleased about my tiny cock size or inability to last, but what enjoyment would she get from getting fucked by my tiny cuckold cock if I lasted longer anyway? So I can’t blame her. She mostly seeks affection from me, like hugs and kisses and cuddling. I know she enjoys having me in her life, we’re great friends. Hot sex is lacking in our relationship.
Lately, I’ve caught her watching the Flava channel. A lot. It’s a rap urban hip hop music channel which plays music videos. The other night I caught her mesmerized by the black rapper Ne-Yo. I asked her if she liked that song, thinking I might download it to her iPod for her, but all my Cuckoldress girlfriend said was: “Ne-Yo is so hot.” She even texted one of her friends while watching the video of the black bull rapper and I’m sure it was to tell her friend to check out Ne-Yo too.
Earlier this year, I had to buy her Usher tickets when Usher was on tour. When I say “tickets” plural, I mean tickets for her and her girlfriend, not for me, to go see Usher. This was a demand of my Cuckoldress girlfriend. I drove them to the concert and picked them up. During the concert, I wanted to drown my cuckold white boy sorrows, so I drank a few brews at a bar. The bartender was a hot blonde with big fake boobs. I asked her point blank: “Do women really prefer black men over white men?” The blonde laughed and said: “Whenever you have to ask a question like that, the answer is always yes.” She then scrolled thru her iPhone and showed me a photo of her with a black stud, the black stud was grabbing her hot ass cheeks. “Your boyfriend?” I asked. “No,” she replied and scrolled thru her iPhone a few seconds more and showed me a picture of her with a decent looking white guy and said, “This is my boyfriend.” So her boyfriend is a cuckold. “We have an arrangement.” she advised me. I knew this blonde Cuckoldress meant a cuckold arrangement.
Soon I have the feeling, I will be in such an arrangement and that my Cuckoldress girlfriend will begin to cuckold me more deliberately. Dear Cuckoldress, can you tell me why some girls just seem to become a Cuckoldress without realizing they are cuckolding their white boyfriend?