Financial Domination is Cuckolding

Recently, an intriguing article in the New York Observer focused on the fascination with one of the most misunderstood fetishes on the planet, financial domination. Most mainstream media articles shock and mislead readers about findom. Some articles tout the pursuit as bossy, talentless girls looking for easy money. Other articles position greedy financial dominatrices plying their trade by swindling, blackmailing, extorting, etc. Finally, the Observer article titled “Hardcore Money Managers” got it right in an explicit sense. However, what was implicit in the article is that financial domination is a form of cuckolding. Below is a quote from the article where a finsub explains the evolutionary relationship dynamic between Money Domme and money slave:

Findom Cuckolding

The relationship of finsub to Financial Domme is essentially cuckold to Cuckoldress. A finsub recognizes that a Financial Domme is an Alpha Female and Cuckoldress. A Cuckoldress finesses beta males to bestow her with cash and gifts. This behavior is what beta males have done in deference to an Alpha Female throughout evolution. The Findom Cuckoldress uses the gifts (examples: clothing, jewelry, heels, vacations) purchased by her devotees to attract or excite her Alpha Male lovers. She can spend the cash to feather her nest or to lure Alpha Males to her bed. All the elements of cuckolding are in play. The Alpha Female reinforces her Cuckoldress status while enforcing the role of the beta males as cuckolds.

Cuckolds are expressly not for mating, they are expected to be providers and to improve the quality of life of superior females. All theories are basic tenets of evolutionary biology. The strongest and most desirable females focus on mating with the strongest and most desirable males. When cuckolds perform their duties, they support the perpetuation of the species at a primal level.

Read the New York Observer financial domination article here

Sheer Control by Zara Lynne, a novel about a shared wife

In the ebook Sheer Control by Zara Lynne, a novel about a shared wife, a submissive bride begins to explore her sexuality and take lovers outside her marriage. The couple is traveling in the south of France and decide to spend time in a post card perfect city. The locale adds to the ambience of the novel. The wife is extremely sexy and alluring. The husband notices that French men are attracted to her. He encourages his wife to indulge desires she hasn’t so far expressed in taking other men to bed as a shared wife. She is a submissive hotwife versus a classic cuckoldress, nevertheless her husband deals with his feelings of jealousy as he watches his stunning wife having sex with other men.

In a previous article here on Cuckoldress.com, the sexual benefits of swinging vs. cuckolding were discussed by a swinging couple. However, in this book, there is a different dynamic. The dynamic is that of a shared wife where the husband has given permission to her to take other lovers, and who then enjoys the voyeuristic aspect of watching her with other men. In turn, she begins to enjoy the exhibitionism of being with other men sexually to please and arouse her husband. Her husband is not a traditional cuckold, since he isn’t dealing with the classic cuckold humiliation, instead he is infused with even more desire for her. Sexual competition increases the male libido. And while any husband who is setting his wife free of marital bonds will have to deal with jealousies, their marriage becomes more erotically charged. Remember that our largest sexual organ is our brain and that we can experience heightened arousal from visual stimulation such as exhibitionism. The Cuckoldress highly recommends this classy erotica, Sheer Control by Zara Lynne as well as other eBooks in the same series!

Sheer Control Zara Lynne

Cuckolding Stereotypes Prevail

Cuckoldress

All of the cuckolding stereotypes were personified in this recent news story and high profile trial promoted in the New York Post. The young, beautiful Swedish model as Cuckoldress. The married Asian financier and two minute man as cuckold. The black nightclub promoter as black bull. And in the end, the jury decided in favor of the Cuckoldress who won a multi million dollar settlement from the Asian cuckold.

Hanna Bouveng was hired by Benjamin Wey to work for his finance firm in Manhattan. One of Wey’s specialties was to buy out struggling corporations which had already been traded on the stock exchange and sell them to Asian companies looking for a fast track to get on the stock exchange without going through the usual channels. He offered Miss Bouveng a pittance of a salary to serve as his personal assistant, paid the rent on her apartment (over $3K a month plus utilities), but then expected sexual favors from her in return. In the few sexual encounters she had with Wey, he only lasted two minutes. And there were also the stereotypical rumors of Wey being underhung. The sugardaddy cuckold relationship ended when Wey found the black bull nude in her bed and told him to get dressed and leave. Was this because the black stud’s anatomy intimidated him? Wey then fired Bouveng. In any case, and in the legal case, Wey was sued by Bouveng for sexual harassment and won.

Many beautiful young women meet older, successful men for sugardaddy relationships on sugardaddy dating sites such as Seeking Arrangement. However, Miss Bouveng and Mr. Wey met at a party in the Hamptons. Mr. Wey probably would have been better suited at being a real sugardaddy to a younger woman looking for job experience or no job experience if all she wanted were the perks of being a sugarbaby. Most sugardaddy relationship perks typically include some type of sexual arrangement. Though it’s doubtful that Wey wanted to end up a cuckold blasted in media all over the world. Or maybe it was everything he ever wanted.

Cuckolding vs Cheating

cuckoldingThe Cuckoldress has more a few admirers who confessed they divorced their first wives or broke up with girlfriends because they thought what their wives or ex-girlfriends were doing was cheating. On retrospect, these men who thought they’d been cheated on began to get excited about the cheating relationships they’d been in. They realized their excitement was rooted in humiliation. They’d been sexually rejected, they were inadequate in bed or they were too small so their spouse or girlfriend sought hotter sex from other men. Some of the “cheating” involved interracial sex. Then these men realized cheating was no longer cheating, it was cuckolding.

That these men were not in control of their wives’ or girlfriends’ sex lives excited them, that the women were Cuckoldresses who held the sexual power in the relationship, was intoxicating to them. The action of cheating somehow mutated into the fetish of cuckolding. These “cheated on” cuckolds advised The Cuckoldress that cheating may have mutated into cuckolding because cuckolding had become popularized on the internet. Can the internet be blamed? No. Evidence of cuckolding has been around for centuries, and biologically speaking has existed since the beginning of human sexual relationships. Women may have pursued mating with whom they perceived to be more of an Alpha male than their current mate without intention of leaving their mate. Cuckolding is and always will be a biological imperative.

What has changed about cuckolding over the centuries? Historically, cuckolding was more of a male sexual power play and humiliation by the dominant male over the cuckolded male. Now, cuckolding is perceived to be a female-centric sexual option. And the male cuckold, while humiliated and powerless, is sexually turned on by his hotwife or girlfriend cuckolding him. Cuckolding has been completely fetishized and is a very firm sexual statement vs. the former subjective perception of cheating.

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