Cuckold and Cuck are getting overused!

In pop culture and social media, the word cuckold and cuck are being overused as insults to describe a weaker or lesser male, a beta male. Cuckold and its abbreviated form cuck aren’t being held true to the original definition and context perpetuated across many centuries. Perhaps there is a reason why our culture is categorizing beta males as cucks. One theory about this phenomenon maintains that a cuckold or cuck is such a weak male, he would not challenge another man having sex with his wife or girlfriend. Another theory is that men emasculate one another in an attempt to trump other men and order themselves within a virtual hierarchy. After all, the put-down “fuckboy” had nothing to do with fucking.

The word cuck and cuckold are being seen and used by millions. This may lead to a greater knowledge, pursuit and acceptance of the lifestyle. The negative risk is oversaturation. FYI: And speaking of cuck, the Cuckoldress hasn’t even delved into the political term cuckservative yet!

Cuckoldress Fail?

Cuckold vs. Cuckoldress

There was an intriguing article on Salon.com recently about a cuckold relationship in which the girlfriend felt that she had been used to satisfy her ex-boyfriend’s cuckold fetish. While the idea of being a Cuckoldress and living the lifestyle appealed to her and while she craved having the power, she ended up feeling trapped in the cuckold relationship instead. In her confessional story, this woman felt she had been manipulated by her ex-boyfriend. She divulged that she felt post-relationship remorse over how her ex-boyfriend had put his selfish sexual needs ahead of hers. He topped her from the bottom, as beta males, submissives or cuckolds are sometimes known to do in order to try to get what they want. I doubt she will ever get involved with a cuckold again. Was this a Cuckoldress fail? Not essentially. The sexual freedom to pursue lusty liaisons with well-hung men or Alpha males while being in a relationship with a cuckold simply did not work for her.

Cuckold Fetish

Many men do not start out in their sex life as a cuckold. Somewhere along the way, cuckolds develop these sexual tendencies and then their full-blown fetish follows. Just like any fetish introduced into a relationship, it may not be a “shared” fetish. A cucky cannot expect that his spouse, his girlfriend or any woman he meets will share this fetish with him. Becoming a Cuckoldress usually roots in dominance or desire for sexual freedom and power. While I often discuss with men who call for cuckold phone sex, how to get their wives or girlfriends interested in cuckolding them, there are obviously women who do not want to pursue this whatsoever. There are many reasons why women may not want to indulge in a cuckold relationship. Women may be sexually conservative, feel insecure about their looks, consider cuckolding to be cheating, feel no need to sleep with other men, feel that fantasizing or role playing is enough of a satisfying sexual expression, etc. But there are some women who can be persuaded to go further into cuckoldry. I don’t want to divulge my secrets here on how to turn your wife or girlfriend into a Cuckoldress. But one hint is that you have to let her think it’s her idea, not yours. Call me live on Niteflirt for more.

Cuckolding Stereotypes Prevail

Cuckoldress

All of the cuckolding stereotypes were personified in this recent news story and high profile trial promoted in the New York Post. The young, beautiful Swedish model as Cuckoldress. The married Asian financier and two minute man as cuckold. The black nightclub promoter as black bull. And in the end, the jury decided in favor of the Cuckoldress who won a multi million dollar settlement from the Asian cuckold.

Hanna Bouveng was hired by Benjamin Wey to work for his finance firm in Manhattan. One of Wey’s specialties was to buy out struggling corporations which had already been traded on the stock exchange and sell them to Asian companies looking for a fast track to get on the stock exchange without going through the usual channels. He offered Miss Bouveng a pittance of a salary to serve as his personal assistant, paid the rent on her apartment (over $3K a month plus utilities), but then expected sexual favors from her in return. In the few sexual encounters she had with Wey, he only lasted two minutes. And there were also the stereotypical rumors of Wey being underhung. The sugardaddy cuckold relationship ended when Wey found the black bull nude in her bed and told him to get dressed and leave. Was this because the black stud’s anatomy intimidated him? Wey then fired Bouveng. In any case, and in the legal case, Wey was sued by Bouveng for sexual harassment and won.

Many beautiful young women meet older, successful men for sugardaddy relationships on sugardaddy dating sites such as Seeking Arrangement. However, Miss Bouveng and Mr. Wey met at a party in the Hamptons. Mr. Wey probably would have been better suited at being a real sugardaddy to a younger woman looking for job experience or no job experience if all she wanted were the perks of being a sugarbaby. Most sugardaddy relationship perks typically include some type of sexual arrangement. Though it’s doubtful that Wey wanted to end up a cuckold blasted in media all over the world. Or maybe it was everything he ever wanted.

Donald Sterling Cuckold

There is a huge uproar over L.A. Clippers owner Donald Sterling’s taped comments to his ex-girlfriend V. about her interactions with black men and the rules he was imposing in regard to how she conduct herself with blacks. The majority of this uproar is purely focused on outrage over his racism. However, just for a moment, consider another viewpoint. Consider that Donald Sterling is not only a racist, but also a cuckold.

Quotes from his tape originally appeared on TMZ.com and I will re-quote one of them to illustrate my point:

“You can sleep with [black people]. You can bring them in, you can do whatever you want. The little I ask you is not to promote it on (Instagram) … and not to bring them to my games.”

Only a cuckold would say this to his girlfriend. Cuckolds often fantasize, as my blog illustrates, about beautiful women having sex with black men. He basically tells V. she can bring BBC studs to the house. A popular cuckolding fantasy embraces sexually dominant Alpha black males coming to a cuckold’s house to have sex with his girlfriend or wife. Sterling asks that V. not Instagram photos of her with black men, including NBA great Magic Johnson and L.A. Dodgers player Matt Kemp (who is mixed race), and to not bring them to “his” games. Clearly, this is a man who doesn’t mind private sexual cuckolding, but wants his public image to be that of a man of power, not that of a weak, inferior cuck. He is clearly territorial over his team and the ownership of his team is strongly tied to his public persona. He does not want his white beta male sexuality to be in question.

I believe for his interracial cuckold fantasy to be upheld, he must perceive V. to be Latina and not black, even though she is mixed race, of both hispanic and black heritage. V. admitted whenever she brought up with Sterling that she was part black, Sterling immediately dismissed it, as if he didn’t want to acknowledge it at all. And in the tape, he told her that she is “supposed to be a delicate white or a delicate Latina girl.” Sterling is apparently delusional over his girlfriend’s true ethnicity. It would ruin his interracial cuckold fantasy for him to see her as anything but white or Latina.

V. Stiviano and the word golddigger are now synonymous in pop culture. Stiviano, nee Vanessa Perez, was gifted nearly 2 million in real estate and luxury vehicles. Plus sources observed she had a credit card that most likely came from Sterling to use to shop till she got dropped. V. lived the high life for 4 years as Sterling’s courtesan. V. claims their relationship was professional and that he was essentially paying her to make public appearances with him. This fact became even more believable given news stories have corroborated rumors that Sterling is suffering from prostate cancer. What older rich man with a few good years left doesn’t want a beautiful girl by his side to enjoy her company? As a billionaire, the gifts he gave V. and her use of his credit card to charge whatever she wished were a mere pittance to him.

Sterling changed his last name from Tokowitz to Sterling, in essence, ashamed to carry a name that alluded to his Jewish heritage. The name Sterling is all about wealth and acquired bling. He is clearly a very insecure man, insecure sexually, insecure ethnically and insecure with his image. He has been known to keep his hair an unflattering shade of brown, eschewing more age-appropriate and less desperate looking naturally grey hair. Perhaps he has a small penis. Perhaps he is no longer virile at age 80 and beyond boner assistance that Viagra could offer. He can “buy” a beautiful and sexy young girlfriend with his money, but he cannot satisfy her sexually. Still, he longs to be aroused in the only still functioning sexual organ he has, his brain. Cuckolding fulfills that.

For his cuckold fantasy to hold its power, V. must not interact with black men in any social settings or be seen with them at his games. He upholds her as a cuckoldress who must be above common interactions with black people. Her only association with black men must be sexual. His racism is evident from his inferences that black people are not to be associated with, that black people are beneath her and beneath him. This is a very antebellum and class-biased attitude toward blacks that acts in ironic counterpoint to permitting V. to have what Sterling perceives to be interracial sex with black men.

ESPN analyst Chris Broussard stated that Sterling’s racism was similar to that of a black slave master. I would agree. Sterling’s view of black men is that they should go out on the court and do as they are enslaved by contract to do. They are not to be mingled with. However, as early interracial sexual fantasies detailed, white women secretly desired sexual trysts with black slaves. Cuckolding in America is deeply ingrained by the perception of the black male’s sexual superiority over the white male. This paradigm is part of American sexual culture and has been for centuries.

It remains to be seen what the fallout of this situation will be for Donald Sterling. I imagine he will be asked to turn in his NBA owner’s “card” and will live the rest of his days in the shadows of the hall of shame.

Coda: In 2011, a guest blogger wrote about Cuckold Psychology on my Cuckoldress blog. Click the link to get a glimpse inside a white cuckold’s mind. Specific elements of his analysis might very well apply to Donald Sterling.

Cuckolded by Celebrities

Proof that a cuckold can be cuckolded by Celebrities !!

1. While in bed, my girlfriend was reading a tabloid and commented only on two specific stories. The first was about Cheryl Cole’s latest alleged romance with a black man. Then she went on about actor Steve Jones supposed trysts with UK glamour girl and wannabe actress Keeley Hazell. My girlfriend’s words were: “Keeley will be doing this for her career, because she’s like Cheryl. She likes black football players!” I remarked that Steve Jones wasn’t black to which my girlfriend responded, “He’s Welsh! Everyone knows that Welshmen are descended from the black Moors!” I didn’t reply, but I started pathetically and lavishly kissing her shoulders with so much enthusiasm and feebly pushed my hard little dickie into her thighs to which my she simply and disinterestedly stated, “Not tonight, ok.”

2. My girlfriend was reading a tabloid article which featured Seal and Heidi Klum’s divorce. My girlfriend said, “I always think how well he’s done for himself. Heidi Klum is out of his league… No wonder she’s divorcing him. Mind you, I hope she got some good sex from him!” I duly explained that she was right, because legend has it that Heidi the Cuckoldress was first attracted to Seal when she saw him approaching wearing just tight bicycle shorts and couldn’t help but notice how well hung he was. My girlfriend laughed and said, “Yeah, she fell in love with his big black cock!”

3. While watching X Factor, the guest star was Rihanna. My girlfriend wondered, other than her well hung black ex-boyfriend Chris Brown, who Rihanna might have dated, meaning slept with. She was shocked to hear this week that Rihanna may have hooked up with Ashton Kutcher! In fact, she denied they must have had sex, stating maybe their late nite rendezvous was for “business reasons”. “Maybe they’re collab’ing on a project!” Rihanna is a well known Size Queen who despises small penises and no one thinks Ashton has anything of size in his pants other than his wallet. Or maybe Rihanna was there to give Ashton some small penis humiliation!

4. We were about to head to bed and put a music channel on tv. It featured The Wanted, singing their new song, “Warzone”. As we watched the video, I could not believe it! It features the whole band being cuckolded. And in every case, the wimpy boy band stand and watch as their girls are expertly sexed up by a huge black stud! I was silent in shock as I took this in, only for my cuckold reverie to be interrupted when my girlfriend said, “I bet any white boys all feel pretty useless after they’ve seen THAT!” So I probed, “Seen what?” My girlfriend spelled it out, “Seen their girls getting it from a black guy. Getting interracial cuckolded. They won’t go back to their white boyfriends now! Once you go black, you never go back! Haha!” I know what my girlfriend said was a cliche, but after watching the music video, I wondered if The Wanted were just representing the collective feelings of white boys as their girlfriends all go black. And the song being titled “Warzone” leads me to believe that there might be symbolism to the feeling that whiteboys are watching their white girlfriends being sexually conquered by black men. And the feeling of being cuckolded by superior black men must feel like losing a war whiteboys can never win.

5. My girlfriend was having an espresso reading a fashion magazine and added more to our discussion about Heidi Klum and Seal earlier in the week, where we spoke about how Heidi the Cuckoldress had first been attracted to the bulge in Seal’s pants. My girlfriend commented that, “Heidi Klum is the most beautiful of all the models. Except maybe that blonde in the L’Oreal ads, whoever she is, you know the one.” I do ‘know the one’ and I know it’s Dutch hottie, Doutzen Kroes. I didn’t want to tell my girlfriend that Doutzen ALSO has a black husband and was pregnant by him, but I didn’t have the guts to tell her! I used to fantasize about Doutzen and look at her pictures when I masturbated. When I found out that Doutzen had gone “black”, I felt like such a cuckold. It has happened over and over that I have been cuckolded by celebrities – beautiful Cuckoldress girls sexually involved with superior black men.

6. When news broke about Cheryl Cole possibly hooking up with singer Taio Cruz in Heat magazine, my girlfriend read the article out loud to me (she never does this for vanilla relationships) and ended by saying, “Cheryl loves her black cock!” I totally accepted this statement and even rubber stamped it by saying, “Yeah totally. She does. You can tell she was never truly with that Derek Hough dancer. No chance! That was just a publicity relationship.” (Derek Hough is a blond dancer known for his work on Dancing with the Stars.) My girlfriend agreed. “I think that relationship was just rigged to get Cheryl press in the U.S. cuz she was going to be doing her tv show in the States. I think she was really into Will.I.Am from Black Eyed Peas. Shame he broke off with her.”

7. We’ve decided on going to Majorca for a quick getaway, because my girlfriend recommended we go there. When recounting her previous trip to the island of Majorca, she explained, “I was on a bus with another girl, I saw an amazing thing. I remember we sat in coach, and my friend tapped me on the shoulder and excitedly demanded that I look at what she was pointing at. When I looked, there was a black guy and he was wearing some shorts, you know like bicycle shorts that you mentioned Seal was wearing when Heidi Klum first spotted him. But you could see it hanging down his leg. Honestly, his cock was massive and was hanging right down his thigh.” I just meekly replied feeling small penis humiliation, “They do have much bigger cocks, yeah. Did he catch you looking at it?” My girlfriend explained, “No, we were both just sat staring at it for ages. We were able to stare without being seen. It was like we were hypnotized by it. Honestly, it was massive.” So I wondered if my girlfriend wanted to back to Majorca because of being hypnotized by black cock there! I truly felt cuckolded. I’ll have to write more after our trip!

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